Once I got sober again, I’d like to say my behavior towards men was completely different, that I only had sex when I was one hundred percent sure I wanted to, that I didn’t judge and hate.
Tag: dating in recovery
Dating and relationships after getting sober
Is the “no intimate relationships during the first year of sobriety” suggestion important to follow? Here, we explain why dating and starting new relationships
The Ugly Side of Dating in 12-Step Programs
When someone acts perfectly, their best selves, when that’s what they present to us, we often fall for it. I wasn’t special or not special. I was typical.
Dating While (Newly) Sober
When my sponsor told me about the suggestion to not date for a year, that I should just concentrate on getting sober, I said: “I’m a really good multi-tasker.” I thought that when I got sober, I’d get into the best shape of my life, start going to the gym all the time, train for… Continue reading Dating While (Newly) Sober
Touching What (I Thought) Was Gone
In the last 36 hours I’ve been to five meetings, sat three times in meditation and sobbed on a friend’s couch. But I’m OK. Love, in my experience, has meant seismic emotional shifts and condemnation, turning even “what do you want for dinner” into a combat zone. I was in a rage-fueled, co-dependent relationship with… Continue reading Touching What (I Thought) Was Gone