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  • Father Pens Powerful Obituary For Daughter Who Died Of Overdose

    Father Pens Powerful Obituary For Daughter Who Died Of Overdose

    The mother of four passed away during a rehab stay in New Hampshire at the age of 31.

    A Vermont father shed light on the issue of separating families impacted by substance abuse by sharing his late daughter’s experience as a mother of four.

    Megan Webbley died on September 29 at a treatment facility in New Hampshire. She was 31 years old. Her obituary, written by her father Edwin Webbley, was published recently in Vermont’s local Seven Days alt-weekly.

    Mr. Webbley did not hide the fact that Megan struggled with substance use disorder. “Specifically, she died of an overdose, finally losing her battle with addiction,” he wrote. “She was in Manchester, NH, seeking treatment for her addiction. We have no clear picture of what went wrong.”

    He described his daughter’s empathy, love for music and dancing, and her “big smile and an infectious laugh”—though “shadowed by opiate addiction.”

    Megan was a mother to four children, who were “collectively the light of her dark life.” Her father remembered a happy moment in 2018 she spent playing in the pool with her children. “It was at that point when she was the happiest we had seen her in years.”

    Her Addiction Journey

    Megan’s battle with substance use disorder began with a severe accident in 2005, where she fell off of a cliff—“I was told that she had been pushed off the cliffs and hit the rocks below.” She was stitched up and her jaw was wired shut.

    “They suspected a (traumatic brain injury), but when they prescribed her liberal doses of opiates, she lost control of her life. She would be in and out of rehab—and jail—for the next 14 years,” Mr. Webbley wrote.

    A Plea To Stop Separating Parents With Addiction From Children

    He concluded by shedding light on the harrowing experience of losing custody of one’s children because of a substance use disorder.

    “To editorialize, I am hoping that the Department for Children and Families (DCF) rethinks its mission to be the punisher of addicted mothers, the separator of families and the arbiter of children’s futures, and instead embrace a mission of enhanced rehabilitation,” he wrote.

    “We, as a state, are overwhelmed by addiction. We have almost nowhere to turn. I encourage enhanced funding for treatment in general and using DCF as a gateway for mothers with addiction to get help. Because, as one would guess, once the mother is separated from her children, desperation sets in, even with the brightest and most determined of mothers—and Megan Angelina Webbley was that bright and determined mother…with a fatal disease and a dearth of treatment options.”

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  • Actor Kristoff St. John Found Dead Of Suspected Alcohol Poisoning

    Actor Kristoff St. John Found Dead Of Suspected Alcohol Poisoning

    “He was able to overcome so many things, but the death of Julian was just a breaking point for him in a lot of ways,” said one source. 

    On Monday February 4th, prolific actor Kristoff St. John was found dead, and alcohol poisoning is suspected. The official cause of death is deferred pending further investigation, USA Today reports.

    For almost 30 years Kristoff St. John starred in the soap opera, The Young and the Restless, as Neil Winters. Beloved by friends, family, and coworkers, St. John’s life had been struck by tragedy when in November 2014 his 24-year-old son, Julian St. John died by suicide while undergoing treatment at a mental health facility.

    At age 18, Julian had been diagnosed with schizophrenia, a serious mental illness that comes with a 40% risk of a suicide attempt, with males being at higher risk than females.

    After Julian’s suicide, Kristoff St. John and his ex-wife Mia St. John, a respected boxer and Julian’s mother, sued the mental health facility where their son died for negligence, and won an out-of-court settlement.

    According to TMZ, in winter 2017, Kristoff St. John reportedly attempted suicide close to the time of the third anniversary of his son’s death. St. John was placed on a 72-hour suicide watch after threatening to shoot himself.

    On January 21, St. John retweeted what now seems to be a terrible harbinger, a message that read: ‘Grieving the loss of a child is a process. It begins on the day your child passes, and ends the day the parent joins them.’ 

    “He was able to overcome so many things, but the death of Julian was just a breaking point for him in a lot of ways,” Stephanie Sloane, editorial director of Soap Opera Digest, said of St. John, to PEOPLE.

    St. John’s ex-wife, immediately following the announcement of Kristoff St. John’s death, blamed the mental health facility. She wrote on Twitter in a since-deleted tweet:

    ‘THAT HOSPITAL KILLED OUR SON THEN MY HUSBAND. THATS WHAT HAPPENED! THEY KILLED MY FAMILY.’

    After the actor’s death was made public, friends and coworkers flooded social media with words of grief and fond remembrance of a man who seemed full of kindness and love. Actress Vivica A. Fox called St. John “a true gentleman.”

    PEOPLE recounted St. John’s 2013 Soap Opera Digest interview, where he movingly discussed his son’s struggle.

    “My son, Julian, has been suffering from a drug addiction for some years now and has also been diagnosed schizophrenic. Unfortunately, he doesn’t take his medication, which disallows a daily health routine,” he said. “Quite often, people who suffer from bipolar disorder self-medicate because they refused to take their pharmaceutical drugs, so we have had out issues. Poor boy felt that the local park was more of a home than his mother’s home or mine, based on the relationship he has with a certain female, and I can’t condone that relationship. I never thought my son would be the kid at the gas station with the gas can trying to get a couple of dollars out of somebody for a bogus story, and this is where Julian is.”

    St. John discussed his son’s artistic abilities proudly, ending with, “There is hope.”

    Kristoff St. John won two Daytime Emmys for his role in The Young and the Restless, playing an ambitious executive at a cosmetics company. Coworker and close friend Shemar Moore told PEOPLE, “This is not how he’s going to be remembered in his last days. He’s going to be remembered for his journey, for how much he loved his children — Paris, Lola, and Julian, his son who had a hard time and took his life.”

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