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  • High School Valedictorian Calls Out Teacher Who Was Regularly Intoxicated In Class

    High School Valedictorian Calls Out Teacher Who Was Regularly Intoxicated In Class

    “I didn’t expect for change to come from my speech, but I was hoping it would encourage more students to speak up.”

    A high school senior at the top of her class gave an epic send-off to faculty and staff who apparently needed checking—including one teacher who she said was “regularly intoxicated during class.”

    Faculty and staff who give their all to be a positive force in their students’ lives deserve all the recognition for their hard work. But for every stellar educator there is another that gives only 50%. Which is why this story is satisfying for any student who’s felt unsupported in their education.

    On June 6th, San Ysidro High School valedictorian Nataly Buhr began her graduation speech by thanking the faculty members who went above and beyond by name. “Thank you for being so invested in your students’ education and well-being,” Buhr said. “You are the most intelligent, inspiring and supportive individuals I’ve had the pleasure of learning from while at SYHS.”

    After thanking her parents and friends, the speech took a turn nobody expected.

    “To my counselor, thanks for teaching me to fend for myself—you were always unavailable to my parents and I despite appointments… You expressed to me your joy in knowing that one of your students was valedictorian when you had absolutely no role in my achievements,” said Buhr, continuing her speech in the same candid tone.

    And to the staff in the main office, Buhr said, “Thank you for teaching me how to be resourceful”—sharing how their “negligence” potentially caused her to miss out on scholarships, and how they denied her application for a work permit “despite confirming with my employer and parents that all of my paperwork was filled correctly.”

    And finally, to close out her address, Buhr called out a faculty member who everyone knew for their drinking problem. “To the teacher who was regularly intoxicated during class this year, thank you for using yourself as an example to teach these students about the dangers of alcoholism,” said Buhr. “Being escorted by police out of school left a lasting impression.”

    It was at this point that her peers in the audience erupted in cheers and applause.

    Buhr maintained that it was the responsibility of the faculty and staff she called out to fulfill their duties to the students, despite their own problems. “I understand that those I criticized may be facing personal issues, but I don’t think that should affect their commitments or the school’s responsibility to fulfill those commitments,” she said in a statement to News 8. “I didn’t expect for change to come from my speech, but I was hoping it would encourage more students to speak up.”

    While a spokesman for the Sweetwater Union High School District said that it was “unfortunate that she decided to air grievances,” the valedictorian’s mother Monica Buhr supported her decision to speak up.

    “I was proud that she spoke up and got it out,” she told KFMB. “It is something that takes a lot of courage to do.”

    View the original article at thefix.com

  • Patton Oswalt Says Daughter Saved Him From Self-Medicating After Wife's Death

    Patton Oswalt Says Daughter Saved Him From Self-Medicating After Wife's Death

    “I would have just eaten to live and then would have drunk so that I didn’t feel anything any more and then would have repeated it every single day,” Oswalt shared.

    Comedian Patton Oswalt says he would have “merely existed” rather than learn to enjoy life again after the sudden passing of his wife, had it not been for his young daughter Alice.

    True-crime writer and Oswalt’s wife of nearly 11 years, Michelle McNamara, passed away unexpectedly in 2016 at the age of 46.

    “I can say with a pretty good amount of confidence that if I hadn’t had Alice, if I didn’t have a daughter, I think I’d be alive right now, but I don’t think I’d be functioning very well,” Oswalt said in the Guardian. “Drinking would have been a problem. Binge-eating would have been a problem… I would have merely existed. I would have just eaten to live and then would have drunk so that I didn’t feel anything any more and then would have repeated it every single day.”

    The comedian reiterated the significance of having to wake up every morning and care for his daughter, who was 7 at the time of McNamara’s passing. Oswalt’s crippling grief would have led him down a very different path had it not been for Alice and his duties as a parent which forced him to stay in a routine and have that structure despite his pain.

    “Having Alice was like: ‘I’ve got to get up, I’ve got to make breakfast, I got to take care of this little life.’ So, it’s almost like I had freedom from choice because I had our daughter,” Oswalt said.

    This routine was vital to his healing. “The thing that people don’t tell you is, when you’re going through grief, every single thing that you do—no matter how mundane: making breakfast for your daughter, doing laundry—is part of your healing process, whether you want it to be or not. You are basically rebuilding your psyche, whether it’s in something ‘elevated’ like writing, or quotidian like paying bills.”

    On April 21, 2016, Oswalt found McNamara in bed not breathing. Early on, he speculated that he had a “feeling it might have been an overdose,” he told the New York Times. An autopsy revealed that McNamara died from an undiagnosed heart condition coupled with a combination of prescription drugs including Adderall, fentanyl and Xanax.

    He attempted to self-soothe with alcohol, but said that he “found out the hard way these past few months that alcohol really doesn’t help.” Oswalt told Playboy magazine in 2017 that if not for his daughter, he would be a “shut-in alcoholic.”

    Despite the trauma of losing his wife, Oswalt is moving on. He married actress Meredith Salenger in 2017, and has continued to work. His latest projects include Veep and the upcoming The Secret Life of Pets 2.

    View the original article at thefix.com