I used drugs and alcohol to control my feelings and gave up on relationships early on since people are harder to control than substances. As I felt the other person pull away, my urge to control increased. Recently I was sitting in a meeting with a little over two years sober, feeling completely insane. For… Continue reading Using Love as a Drug
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Dating While (Newly) Sober
When my sponsor told me about the suggestion to not date for a year, that I should just concentrate on getting sober, I said: “I’m a really good multi-tasker.” I thought that when I got sober, I’d get into the best shape of my life, start going to the gym all the time, train for… Continue reading Dating While (Newly) Sober
How I Conquered My Relationship Insecurity
I didn’t engage in behaviors like calling or texting multiple times—if anything, I did the opposite, out of fear of being perceived as needy—but the thoughts alone, their irrationality and all-consuming anxiety, caused me a lot of pain. Fear of abandonment, jealousy, and general insecurity in romantic relationships leads many in the dating scene to… Continue reading How I Conquered My Relationship Insecurity
Neil Strauss' Evolution: From Pick-Up Artist to Relationship Expert
“Your relationship success has nothing to do with your partner, it’s really all about you and working on yourself…Until you do that you’ll always fall in love with the same kind of person.” Neil Strauss has an enviable list of accomplishments. A nine time best-selling author, he got his start as a music critic writing… Continue reading Neil Strauss' Evolution: From Pick-Up Artist to Relationship Expert
