Tag: loved ones with addiction

  • Joe Biden Applauds Son For Speaking Out About Addiction Struggles

    Joe Biden Applauds Son For Speaking Out About Addiction Struggles

    In a recent New Yorker profile, Hunter Biden went on the record about his long-time addiction struggles.  

    Presidential hopeful Joe Biden and his wife Jill are speaking out about their son Hunter’s experience with addiction after the publication of a New Yorker profile that detailed Hunter’s decades-long struggle with substance misuse. 

    “Hunter’s been through some tough times, but he’s fighting, he’s never given up. He’s the most honorable, decent person I know,” Joe Biden said in a CNN interview, according to The Hill

    Biden added that Hunter’s participation in the New Yorker profile “took enormous courage.”

    In the profile, Hunter spoke out about his drug and alcohol abuse. 

    “Look, everybody faces pain,” Hunter told the magazine. “Everybody has trauma. There’s addiction in every family. I was in that darkness. I was in that tunnel—it’s a never-ending tunnel. You don’t get rid of it. You figure out how to deal with it.”

    Red Flags

    Hunter admits that during college he drank socially and used cocaine. When cocaine was unavailable once, he smoked crack. “It didn’t have much of an effect,” he said.

    However, as his career as a lobbyist and consultant took off, he began drinking more. When he started staying in Washington rather than getting on his commuter train home, it was a red flag. 

    “When I found myself making the decision to have another drink or get on a train, I knew I had a problem,” he said. 

    His wife at the time urged him to try a sober month. “And I wouldn’t drink for 30 days, but, on day 31, I’d be right back to it,” he said. 

    After connecting with AA, Hunter was sober for seven years before relapsing in 2010, and again in 2013. In 2014 he was discharged from the Navy after testing positive for cocaine

    In 2015, Hunter enrolled in a treatment program, followed by another in 2016. However, later that year he admits to buying crack, and drug paraphernalia was found in his vehicle.

    Divorce proceedings from 2017 included the claim that Hunter had “created financial concerns for the family by spending extravagantly on his own interests (including drugs, alcohol, prostitutes, strip clubs, and gifts for women with whom he has sexual relations), while leaving the family with no funds to pay legitimate bills.” 

    More recently, Hunter said that his father’s support has helped him endure his addiction. In May he told his father, “Dad, I always had love. And the only thing that allowed me to see it was the fact that you never gave up on me, you always believed in me.”

    Facing Addiction 

    Joe Biden has continued to stand by Hunter.

    “Everybody has to deal with these issues in a way that’s consistent with who they are and what they are,” he said this week. “The idea that we treat mental health and physical health as though somehow they’re distinct—it’s health.”

    Jill Biden, Hunter’s stepmother, said that her family, like many others, has had no choice but to face addiction head-on. 

    “We’ve seen his struggle and we know most American families are dealing with some sort of struggle like we are, and I think they can relate to us as parents who are hopeful and are supportive of our son,” she said. 

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  • Siblings of People With Addiction Need Support Too

    Siblings of People With Addiction Need Support Too

    An expert discusses the impact that dealing with a sibling’s addiction can have on their loved ones.

    As it has become more socially acceptable to talk openly about addiction, groups have popped up to support family members who have had their lives interrupted by a loved one’s substance abuse.

    While groups for parents and spouses are common, siblings of people with substance use disorder are often overlooked, despite the fact that they need support too.

    “Kids aren’t prepared for the kinds of emotions that they’re experiencing watching a sibling go through these kinds of crisis,” Tim Portinga, a psychologist at the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation told WHYY. “I hear this just consistently over and over again from siblings: that nobody understands how painful it was to have their brother or sister not show up at their basketball games, or to see their brother or sister intoxicated and passed out on the floor, or to try to understand why their brother and sister are in trouble with the legal system again.”

    Oftentimes these siblings are going through their own tumultuous teen years. Sixteen-year-old Natalie of New Jersey told WHYY in another report that she started lashing out at friends after her sister went to rehab. Ultimately she found support through Alateen, a 12-step program that is a spinoff of AA and supports teens who have a family member struggling with addiction.

    “My first meeting, I wasn’t expecting to open up, but as soon as everyone was seated, I was like, this is a safe space, like I can trust all of these people and I know nothing bad will come of it,” she said.

    Natalie said Alateen helped her learn healthy coping and boundaries, like not to try to parent her sister.

    Today, Alex L. coordinates Alateen in Pennsylvania, but he has been utilizing the program since he was 12. He said that the groups can be an important resource for siblings and other teens touched by addiction.

    “These meetings, these gathering points, are vital to our development and our growth and our mental health and our sanity.”

    Portinga said that dealing with a sibling’s addiction can have lifelong consequences, so it’s often appropriate for siblings to get therapy too.

    “The basic thing keeps coming back to the trust that’s broken, and often in ways that are deeply painful,” he said. “So siblings build up these defenses against building relationships. They get really fearful around trust. They have really complicated ideas about what a brother or sister should be or could be.”

    Living with a person with addiction can also increase the risk that teens engage in risky behavior themselves, he said.

    “It’s a particularly painful thing because siblings will sometimes, under the umbrella of trying to be kind brothers and sisters, will often share substances,” Portinga said. “I often hear stories amongst my own clients about how their first using experiences happened with a brother or sister.”

    That’s why it’s important for siblings like Natalie to know that they need to focus on their own health.

    “I need to work on myself and healing,” she said.

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  • Heartbreaking Billboard Aims To Raise Awareness About Addiction

    Heartbreaking Billboard Aims To Raise Awareness About Addiction

    The billboard spotlights a brief, powerful message: “Tim Hatley: Addiction Can Lead to Death.”

    Amidst the pre-fab buildings and snow of northern Michigan sits a stark reminder for the Hatley family.

    It’s a roadside billboard with a simple message: “Tim Hatley: Addiction Can Lead to Death.” 

    On a rural road outside the town of Grayling – population 1,800 – the signage is aimed at raising awareness about addiction, using the story of a former high school football player who died by suicide last year after struggling with addiction. 

    “When he turned 19 he moved out of my house and moved down the street with a friend and that’s kind of when it all started that he started snorting Norcos,” his mother Karen told CBS affiliate WWTV. “He had a huge addiction with the Norcos, went through three withdrawals with him.”

    It started after he was prescribed painkillers for a sports injury. Afterward, he kept using the pills and pain management gave way to a larger problem. After more than a decade of drug misuse, he turned from opioids to meth, his mother said. 

    A month before his death, he had a psychotic episode. On Dec. 30 of last year he killed himself.

    “His fiancé had called me and said ‘he’s gone’ and hung up on me. And I was like ‘what is she’s talking about?’” Hatley told the TV station. “I called my husband and said ‘you need to come home now.’ So, he came home, and when he walked in he was crying, and just shook his head and I fell to the ground.”

    So this year, she paired up with the Crawford County Partnership for Substance Abuse Prevention to put up a billboard reminding passersby of her son’s story and offering a solution. “If you need help, recovery starts here. Call 1-800-834-3393,” the sign says.

    “I chose the billboard going towards the high school because I want kids on a bus to see that every single day, and I want parents to get the message that you know, you’re [sic] kid doesn’t have to be a troubled kid to end up this way,” Hatley said. “This loss is the worst thing I’ve ever had to go through, and I don’t want anyone else to go through this.”

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