As part of my therapy I had to cut contact with my family and tell my professors I was recovering from sexual abuse. It was excruciating, but I wanted to do the “hard work” of recovery. “If you leave here, you will be on the street.” From her red upholstered chair, my psychotherapist Marlene launched… Continue reading My Experience in a 12-Step Cult
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The Eternal Holiday of the Alcoholic
When you drink constantly, you become numb, slipping down into a sub-life, a waking coma. You become a chaotic ghost that exists almost at one step removed from everything else. The following is an excerpt from Jolly Lad – The Expanded North American Edition, published this month by MIT Press and available here. After I… Continue reading The Eternal Holiday of the Alcoholic
God Hates Pikachu and He Also Killed My Daddy
My higher power doesn’t want me sticking a needle in my arm. For me today, it’s as simple as that. I didn’t want to unpack this story so soon. My aim was to share my experience with getting and staying sober in a dry and witty way, do that for a while with you, maybe… Continue reading God Hates Pikachu and He Also Killed My Daddy
When the Obsession Isn’t Lifted
Before, when someone with 20 years would say “it’s still a day at a time,” I couldn’t really hear them. I do now. I was a typical low-bottom case. I was drunk most days, and a car wreck, an arrest, and a liver enzyme problem couldn’t pry me from my favorite thing to do. What… Continue reading When the Obsession Isn’t Lifted
Me, My Psych Meds & My 12-Step Recovery
Now that I have double-digit sobriety, I have no qualms about pulling aside people who disparage the use of psych meds in meetings. As I sat in my jail cell I had to question the admonition I got from an old-timer at a 12-step meeting I frequented. “If you trust your Higher Power enough, you… Continue reading Me, My Psych Meds & My 12-Step Recovery
No More Attendance Sheets In AA
Having court-ordered people at our meetings is like being, “a little bit pregnant.” We are either anonymous or we are not anonymous. Our Traditions are important to Alcoholics Anonymous. We also want to see AA continue to provide a way out for alcoholics. The responsibility statement located on so many meeting walls says it all.… Continue reading No More Attendance Sheets In AA
Comedian Jake Fogelnest: From Self-Loathing to a Life Beyond His Wildest Dreams
Notice they don’t call it the “9th Step Maybes.” It’s not the “9th Step Possibilities.” It’s the “9TH STEP PROMISES.” It’s very clear: we must be painstaking and take the suggestions. But if we DO…some amazing stuff will happen before we know it. Comedy Central, VH1, MTV, Netflix. Jake Fogelnest’s TV writing/producing credits are too… Continue reading Comedian Jake Fogelnest: From Self-Loathing to a Life Beyond His Wildest Dreams
Depression in Recovery: Do You Have Low Dopamine Tone?
I just felt like shit and slept as much as I could. I showed up to work. I kept my commitments. I spoke when asked to, but I felt more than unhappy. I felt like I just didn’t care. (The Fix does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment, nor does anything on this website create… Continue reading Depression in Recovery: Do You Have Low Dopamine Tone?
All My Friends Are Junkies
Once we switched our attention away from getting high and learned how to stay sober, we quickly realized that if we put at least one percent of the same effort it took to get trashed into other areas of our lives, the results were astronomical. All of my friends—each and every last one of them—are… Continue reading All My Friends Are Junkies
Enabling, Self-Seeking, and Recovery
Every moment there’s the possibility of falling back into self-seeking after having recovered much of our spiritual, financial, and physical health. Recently, I was accused on a community website of being an enabler. The article and discussions that followed were regarding a proposed affordable housing project in our community and how some members of the… Continue reading Enabling, Self-Seeking, and Recovery